Saturday, January 30, 2010

To All The Losers

I’m a loser. At least I feel like one sometimes.

I failed my first drivers test. Yep. I’m putting it out there. I remember I just cried and cried.

I never went to my prom. Nope. Never even got asked!

I had to take speech therapy as a child for slurring my ‘s’s. Still struggle with that sometimes.

I don’t have a best friend.

No one ever threw me a baby shower for my second child!

Why am I laying this all out there? Because I’m tired of posers. I’m tired of people acting like they have it all together thus making others feel inferior. NO ONE has it all together! No one!

I am a walking-talking flawed woman. And you know what? I’ve come to love myself. I have come to embrace my failures, my flaws, my missteps. I haven’t always enjoyed them and certainly wouldn’t repeat some of them – but they make up “me.” And I am a unique, one-of-a-kind person.

I’ve learned to love me. God loves me – why shouldn’t I love me? My husband knows all of these things and he loves me too. Imperfections and all.

I’ve learned that success doesn’t make you more loveable. It only makes you more successful.

I want to challenge you to bare your flaws and your failures. It can be very freeing. Yes, some people will label you a “loser.” Others will breathe a sigh of relief , and come clean about their own “low” moments in life.

Why do we expect to have it all together all of the time? Only Jesus is perfect. And if I hadn’t gone through what I went through in life sometimes, I might have failed to learn compassion, diligence, perseverance, or faith. I might not have learned to lean on the Lord. Oh what I would have missed out on!

So I may be a “loser” in some people’s book, but I’m really a winner because it’s only when I am brought low that God can truly raise me up.


Barbie said...

A beautiful post. I use to struggle with perfectionism. I don't so much anymore, yet it's still so hard for me to understand the perfect love of Jesus that was freely given for me. My head gets it, but I so want it to sink into my heart. He loves us so much, doesn't he?

Leslie said...

That was wonderful!!! (And thanks for stopping by my blog, by the way :-)

Sophie A. said...

I really like the sincerity of your blog post. I agree with how you see things, the flaws are necessary...otherwise we wouldn't need to rely on God for our strength :).

Jennifer and Family said...

Wow...this is a wonderful post Dionna. It is so brave of you to be so honest...thank you. As women many of us tend to put on a cloak of what we'd like people to think of us...but rarely is that ever the truth. I know I struggle with the need for it to seem that I've got it all together...when I SOOOO don't. I'm a work in progress too. This blog is wonderful...thank you for writing it. :0)

Dionna said...

Thanks Jennifer. It is hard to be honest and let people see all of your layers at times but it is truly freeing not to have to put up pretenses!

Hope you'll keep visiting my blog. :)


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