Thursday, March 4, 2010

Accept What Is, Accept What Isn't

A long time ago I learned that life doesn’t often turn out the way you dreamed it would. Very few people probably set out on the exact path that they thought they would. In the wake of so many unrealized dreams, the question begs to be asked, “How do people deal with it?”

There seems to me, to be hundreds of unrealized dreams in a person’s life and only a few realized ones. Sometimes we can lessen the impact or joy those little ones have in our lives because we are pining away so deeply for the loss of the other ones. I also think that as time goes on, sometimes we can glamorize the past or remember people in a different light than actually should have been shed on them. We alter things in our minds because somehow what “wasn’t” seems like it would have been better for us or would have made us happier.

What a lie.

Our paths go down certain roads for a very real reason. We waste so much joy and happiness to be had in our lives by simply wishing and longing for something that didn’t happen. We can get so focused on regrets that we fail to take hold of the love and life that sits right in front of us.

I’ve been learning that one of the best things I can do for myself is to accept what is, and accept what isn’t. You can’t go back in time. You can’t redo the crossroads of life. But you CAN make the most of today so that it doesn’t become another “slipped” opportunity. It starts with some deep internal talking. I think we can only move forward when we truly come to terms and accept what is and isn’t in our life. It can be a very healing time and one that sets us free and releases us from many things in many ways – unmet expectations, unrealized dreams, undone tasks, unsaid words…..

Life is today. Our yesterdays do make up a part of who we are but the action and living part of life is today. We need to live it and not waste any more moments pining, longing, wishing, or reliving what is done with. Every part of our lives has its time. What is it time to do today in your life?

No more regretting. Make peace with what is. Accept it and accept what isn’t. It’s one of the best gifts we can give ourselves.

1 comment:

Nana Jul said...

When you can accept what is and what isn't, that becomes the most pivotal freeing place of one's life! Knowing Our Lord had it all planned out from the beginning....and all of the past helped to shape us into what we are now.
Wonderful post!


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