Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Living a Me Focused Life

Are you living a “me” focused life? A lot of people are these days.

“It’s all about me.”

“You deserve it.”

“To each his own.”

There are so many slogans and mottos thrown at us telling us to put ourselves first. I think somewhere along the way things shifted from simply reminding ourselves to not neglect ourselves to instead putting ourselves first.

God says ‘The first shall be last and the last shall be first.” I don’t think He wants me to put myself first – but rather, others.

Yes, there are times where you need to focus on your health. There are moments where you need to tell someone, “No, I can’t do that; I’m sorry.” And there are boundaries that one must put up in their life in order to not be taken advantage of or victimized by someone who is cold, uncaring, or downright evil. But I’m mainly talking about normal day-to-day life here.

We have so much to give. Each one of us. It may not feel that way at times, but we do. We have so much to give our children. Not gifts, but time, love, and values. We have so much we can give our spouses and our friends. We have so much to give our communities! If you think about it, look inside of your garage. How much “Stuff” resides there? Do you really need it all? Do you really use it all? Do you save things in order to make money by selling them or do you give them away to someone you know could really use them? You see – there is an inner motivation and purpose that resides in us and often…it’s “me” focused.

Try doing something where you will get no reward, no benefit back at all. Try doing something simply for someone else out of the goodness of your heart. Don’t expect a “thank you” – don’t expect a response. Just do it because you see a need and you know you can fill it. I bet you anything that you will get more out of that than you will ever get from filling some temporary selfish need for yourself.

I challenge you to begin a journey for yourself and for your family of making conscious choices and decisions that aren’t “me” focused. Do them because you want to. Do them because it’s right.

And watch your life change. As well as your heart.


Zhanna said...

This is my desire, to do something for others, to make an impact, even a just a simple gesture. My husband and I were talking a few nights ago about how we need to be Gods hands and feet and he was like "but we can barely help ourselves." And I told him "God doesnt call the qualified, he calls the willing." We may not be well off financially, but we are beyond blessed compared to others who are truly suffering which means we must take our eyes of ourselves, even just for a moment each week and fill a need in someone elses life. Great post!

Dionna said...

You are right, Zhanna. And there is so much you can do for someone that costs nothing - listen, encourage, love...etc. :) Often those are the greatest gifts anyways!


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