Sunday, February 20, 2011
Is Your Home a Safe Harbor?
I expect a lot out of my children. I believe in them. But at the same time, I want them to know they aren’t going to be perfect and they will fall and mess up. That’s part of growing up, learning, and maturing. It’s part of discovering who you are and who you want to be.
The world is full of criticism. We all get more than our fair share of it. That’s why I don’t want my kids to get it from me too. Sure, I have to apologize sometimes for being harder on them than I ought – I’m human. But I try really hard to relax the pressure they feel on their shoulders of having to “have it all together” all of the time. I know I need more than my fair share of grace and mercy, so I need to be able to extend that my kids’ way as well.
Is your home a safe harbor for your kids? Do they feel like they can tell you things and let you know when they’ve done something they’ve regretted? If not, then maybe it’s time to take a look at your expectations and how you are portrayed in their mind’s eye.
Everyone needs a safe harbor. For me, that harbor is my Lord. And ultimately, I want it to be for my kids too. But when they are growing up and they also need that “tangible” here and now kind of protection – I want to be the one to offer it to them as well. I want them to feel comfortable and free in their own home and with their own family. In fact, I want them to long for it. So, as long as I’m able; this dock will be open to them and will be a safe place to run to.