Why does it seem like most of us have such issues with accepting ourselves? We often wave away compliments or bring up our own flaws as a protection mechanism in case anyone else should happen to notice them first.
We compare ourselves. Minimize who we are. Talk negative self-talk. And we even compromise what we think and believe in order to be viewed as more acceptable.
For me, I think one of the most freeing things about being in your 30’s and 40’s is the fact that you learn to be more comfortable in your own skin. A little bit of life is tucked under your belt and for most of us, we are somewhat wiser than we were 10 years prior.
I do find though, that accepting and truly LOVING myself is like an ebb and flow kind of thing if I’m not intentional about it. It is far too easy to see someone skinnier, more beautiful, and more eloquent than I am. Comparing only hurts the uniqueness of who God created me to be. And talking down to myself, minimizing, and compromising, also hurt.
Who would intentionally hurt themselves? We do. All of the time.
The older I get and the more I travel around the world, the more I realize how beautiful uniqueness is. I love discovering a new friend who is totally different than everyone else. I love watching someone with a truly distinct “character.” They are so fascinating! I love the freedom that these individuals have to be quirky, odd, or even what others would deem “weird.” I often find it charming.
God made each one of us to be separate and distinct. Not one of us should be a replica of someone else. No, we are made to be “stand-outs.” And yet we are so afraid of it. So afraid that the masses will reject who we are.
How much time do we waste trying to fit in when we were so obviously created to be unique?
The more I allow myself and give myself the freedom to be different – to be “me” in all my distinctness – the more I find that others are drawn to me. And honestly – the more I enjoy myself because I’m living life within the boundaries that God made for me, personally.
It will probably always be somewhat of a struggle for us to accept ourselves but the more we practice it, the easier it gets. And amazing things happen when we live within our God-given roles as people if we would just stop fighting against ourselves….and start loving.