Those words crossed my heart and mind one day. “Sometimes you just have to make peace with it.” Those words that said so much.
We’ve all had our crosses to bear. We’ve all gone through things in life that were unfair. We’ve been wronged. Life hasn’t dealt us the blessings and rewards we should have gotten, at times. And we hold on to it in our heads, and we hold on to it in our hearts. More than that, we carry it with us from thing to thing. It lives on. IN us.
But I’m learning that sometimes you just gotta make peace with the past. You need to make peace with the wrongness of it all. Make peace with the unfairness, the loss, the grief, the change that you didn’t ask for. For peace is the only way you will be able to move on.
We can grow from those things that were meant to hold us back. We can get stronger from those things that were meant to make us weak, and we can embrace those things that left deep scars by using them to our advantage. By letting them fuel us instead of drain us. By making peace with them.
I wish some things had never happened to me. But they did. They are now a part of who I am. A part of my life story. I can continue to let those things hurt me day after day after day. I can let them tear me apart and not only ruin or wrong me in the past; but ruin and wrong me today. IF, I hold onto them.
But I want to let them go.
They will always be a part of me in some way, of course. But they don’t have to have power over me. They don’t have to dictate the choices I will make or the actions I will take. I can make peace with the past ,and by doing so, have control over my future.
Bad things will happen. Hurtful things will occur. And I will not welcome any of them. But I can (over time) make peace with them. I can find purpose and perspective, only, ONLY, if I am able to let God work peace in my heart where it once held pain.
I want to move forward in life. I don’t want the same things to keep hurting me over time. Don’t you? Let them go. Make peace with the parts of your life that didn’t go the way you’d planned or wished. And let those very parts of life build you into a better, more giving, and complete person. Let them build you into a person who can love the next person who is struggling with the same thing. Trust God and the reasoning He had/has for having you where you are at this moment in time.