I have fears. I have things I internally struggle with. I have pretty good instincts and sometimes I fear what is coming because I pretty much know what it’s going to be. And that ‘thing’ is something I either dread, or don’t want.
Years ago, I learned to start challenging my own fearful thoughts. I started asking myself “what is the worst thing that can happen? And if that happens, can I handle it? Can I survive? Can I deal with it?” Usually, the answer is ‘yes.’ It may not be what I want. It may hurt. But I can usually see that I will survive it and come out the other side of it somewhere.
It’s helped me. It’s helped me grow courage in otherwise vulnerable areas in my heart and life.
I still have fears. I still have struggles. But I can look at them from a more stable stance.
Life is full of curves. If only we could plan out our own path – right? But we can’t. We have so little control. We deal with a lot of things in life because of someone else’s choices. And we have to move on. We have to figure out how to navigate those things, especially when we didn’t really want them to be a part of our story, or our ‘life picture.’
We are stronger than we think.
So, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” And if it happens, cry about it. Yell, Kick something. Grieve over the loss. Then let that moment shift. Adjust to it. And move forward on that new ground and in that new territory.
You can do it. You may not like it, but you can do it. And so can I.