The buffer. We all implement a “buffer zone” in our lives. For some of us, it’s physically isolating ourselves from relationships – from getting hurt. For some of us, it’s the opposite. We participate in any and everything. We have FOMO (Fear of missing out.)
There are some of us who use the buffer to keep others away from us. We set ourselves apart by our physical look; our attitude.
Still others of us, push ourselves to our limits and then some. We have to excel at everything. We don’t know how to relax.
It’s the buffer. We all use it to varying degrees.
Thankfully, some of us have learned to only use it temporarily as we heal from hurts. Others of us, somehow, have allowed it to become permanent in our lives – in our hearts.
We’ve all been hurt. We’ve all stumbled. It can be easy to panic and say, “We’re not ready” to put ourselves out there again. We’re not ready to take the risk of falling again. Of hurting again.
Being at the bottom isn’t fun. Being on the outside doesn’t feel good. And losing, hurts.
But the thing is, we can’t find what we don’t allow ourselves to search for. We can’t fly if we stay on the ground. We can’t be free if we stay in the chains.
A buffer in our lives is good sometimes. It’s good to give us healing time. It’s good to show us how much healthier we can live with boundaries in place in our lives.
It’s good to take a “ pause” sometimes. To think. To rest. To wait on our own souls to catch up to the moment.
Otherwise, we need to learn to let go of those buffers we’ve set in place in our lives.
It can be scary at first. No one said bravery would come easy. But we can overcome. Step by step. Grasp by grasp.
We all lose sometimes. But we can all be found.
Take the step. Make the choice. Take the risk. Lift your eyes upward, and reach for your life. Your joy.