Thursday, February 24, 2011

Get A Hold of Your Attitude

How often do we complain in a day? In ONE day? You’d probably guess a couple of times – but I venture to say it’s much more than that. A LOT more.

For one thing, I’ve caught myself on more than one occasion, complaining, whimpering, whining, and uttering grievances more often than I’d care to admit. It shames me, actually. For another, I’ve caught others. All you have to do is go out in public to hear and see people’s utter contempt, disdain, and frustrations in general.

The thing is – most of what we complain about is so small. Maybe it’s having to wait a little longer at a red light. Or that new employee making a mistake as they ring us up at the cash register. We complain about our food not being prepared how we wanted it, or someone not responding to US the way we wanted. We gripe about our housework, the weather, schools, and churches. It’s there and it’s constant.

I’m just wondering what it was….that caused us to be so discontent? Why are we so quick to mention the bad?

Is it because we live in a society that has taught us that “we” are more like a “me?”

It saddens my heart – and I’m a part of it.

I’ve been trying to bite my tongue a lot more often. I’ve been trying to find out what true contentment is and feels like. When a sports practice runs late….I need to close my mouth and take it instead of griping about it. When I’m neglected to be noticed or appreciated in something I’ve done…I need to offer it up to God instead of offering it up to the masses.

I want to have a happy heart. A thankful heart. A contented heart. To me, that means I’m going to have to let A LOT of things go. I’m going to have to lay them down at God’s feet and let Him deal with them. I’m going to have to acknowledge that a heck of a lot of things will be unfair. Unequal. Rude. Bitter. Unkind.

I do believe there is a time and a place to put on our battle gear. I don’t think we should take everything lying down. But it’s the day to day minor nuisances that we need to start overlooking and forgiving.

I know that probably for everything I’ve complained about, someone could say the same of me doing that very thing myself at one point. And that’s humbling.

It really doesn’t make the situation “okay” when we let it go. It still will probably be frustrating for us. But it does make US better. It makes us better on the inside AND on the outside. It stretches us and teaches us how to give grace to someone else. And to them, they experience getting it.

It’s a win-win.


Vicky @ Pearl District said...


I am always inspired by your words. I too find myself complaining...about everything! :( I think we're spoiled. We have everything. Everything we need and want. My dad always said we need to move to Africa when we complained about food. People there are thankful for a piece of bread.

Thank you for reminding me of having a thankful heart.

God bless.

Heidi said...

Amen... to all of it. I think if we could just learn to accept "things" (whatever they are) as His portion despite the fact that they don't look like what we want it would mean everything in how we reacted towards them. I love the quote by Lysa Terkeurst... "I may not be able to control my circumstances, but I can control my responses." Great post, I'm a new fan :)

Dionna said...

Vicky - Thank you so much for your kind words. They encourage me!

Heidi - So glad you stopped by and that you like my blog! Look forward to hearing from you again soon. :)