Monday, May 9, 2011

Someone Always Has It Worse; Someone Always Has It Better

Every once in awhile I run across someone who really blows me away with their courage and positive attitude. More often than nought, it is someone who is dealing with things in life that would bring anyone to their knees. And yet, they smile, they praise God, and they radiate hope and gladness.

I recently ran into one of these very individuals and when I told them how much I admired their attitude, their response was… “Someone always has it worse.”  Yes, we’ve heard that, haven’t we? We don’t always acknowledge it – but it’s true. Someone DOES always have it worse than we do.  It’s our choice that can fuel a situation to be more miserable, or more bearable than it otherwise could be.

In fact, it could be said in the opposite extreme, as well. “Someone always has it better than I do.” I mean, let’s be honest.  We don’t just look at things one way in life, do we? We often lament about where we are, and what we have been dealt because we view things in the light of “someone always has it better,” instead of “someone always has it worse.” I guess its another way of saying the glass is either half full or half empty.

It’s all in how we view life.

I’m human. I’ve viewed life both ways. I’ve sat down and been so thankful for what I’m dealing with because I know that someone else has it far worse. In a humble heart, I’ve thanked God that I wasn’t “them.” (I mean, we’re being honest with ourselves, right?) But I’ve also sat down and asked, “Why can’t I BE them?” I’ve felt sorry for myself because instead of keeping my eyes on my own road and journey in life – I’ve shifted them onto someone else’s. Someone who may have an easier load than me. A more blessed road – in my opinion.

Why do we do that? Why do play those kinds of games with ourselves? If we look for something negative in life – WE WILL FIND IT. But so will we find it if we look for something positive. I know this. I’ve lived this – in both extremes. It really all comes down to contentment and thankfulness.  We have to be content with who God has made us to be.

If we deal with lots of tragedy, trials, and hardships in our lives – we can certainly be worn out. We can weep, mourn the loss of a good, decent, easy life. We can waste away within the moments of those miseries. OR, we can thank God that He found us worthy to handle the tough things in life. That He decided WE were the ones who should tackle the deep, the dark, and the hard.  We can see it as being chosen.

There will always, always be someone who is given more than us in life. “Why” is between them and God. Someone will always have a better job, a more loving family, more money, better health, more friends, and get more praise and acknowledgment than we do. It’s a given.  So let’s just stop going there. Let’s stop looking for what we don’t have. Someone will always have it worse, too. And it shouldn’t take those thoughts to get us to straighten up and deal admirably with what has been placed on our plates.

Life is life. Everyone gets good and bad stuff thrown into their lives. Yet we have one guarantee. None of us gets the same doses of it.   So whether someone has it better – or – worse than we do – we need to learn to praise God amidst all of it. For He is there with us in the midst of all of it; whether better or worse. And He’s on our side – cheering for us to be victorious. If that means being humble because we’ve been given less – so be it. If that means being joyful because we’ve been given more adversity – so be it. 

Without Him, we won’t win or find happiness in either situation.


Kelli said...

This is a wonderful post. I do believe that God allows things in our lives that are difficult in order to mold us into the image of Christ. Without hardship there would be no character, and without that there would be no perserverance...I think sometimes I would rather have the perserverance without the hardship but it doesn't work that way!:)

Dionna said...

Thanks, Kelli. I'm with you on the perseverence thing. :)