Stuffers. Some of us are “stuffers.” We “stuff” our feelings deep down inside of us. Maybe, we don’t like confrontation. Maybe we don’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings. Lots of maybe’s.
The thing about “stuffers,” is that at some point, the bottle gets full.
And things explode or overflow.
Usually, it’s not in the constructive way we’d prefer. Instead of an honest conversation, we yell at a loved one over something silly. Instead of addressing something that bothers us, we pull away and a rift forms in the relationship.
There is strength in all of us. Some of us just need to look a little deeper to find it.
We all have a voice. We all have feelings. Feelings are never wrong. Sometimes, they just may not have all the facts, or may interpret something in a way that causes misunderstandings.
You don’t have to be a bully to speak up. You don’t have to be confrontative. You can speak up in a soft, gentle voice. But, speak up for yourself. Value yourself enough, and value a relationship enough, to use your voice to express what is going on inside of you.
Of course, not all conversations will end the way we’d prefer. Some people will never understand or “get” us. But don’t we owe it to ourselves to try?
We hurt ourselves when we bury our feelings. They eat away at our joy, our peace, and our self-worth.
Don’t be afraid of what those feelings stand for. Don’t be afraid of what you feel.
You have a voice. Use it. Use it respectfully, but use it. You owe it to yourself.