Thursday, October 11, 2012

Do You Ever Just Want To Be A Priority To Someone Else?

Do you ever just want to be a priority to someone else? Sometimes it just feels like we always come in second – or third with other people. That they care, but not quite care ENOUGH to put you first. That they love, but not quite love ENOUGH, to prioritize you.

I hate it when I feel that way.

And feel that way, I do. There are times for me – just like for you – that I long to feel like I’m a priority to someone else. I long to not just be told that I’m special to someone else; but to see that by their actions I am special to them. I long to not just get lip service – but to be reached out to.

Don’t we all feel that way sometimes?  I’m sure we do.

I think the thing is that we have hidden expectations. And then reality just doesn’t measure up. To that other person, they may think they ARE prioritizing us but are just unaware that they are overlooking our needs, wants, and desires. Or, maybe they ARE aware, in which case the relationship isn’t what we hope it would be. Either way – on our end – it can be discouraging, frustrating, and sometimes hurtful.

Of course I can spout the Christian thing to say – that we ARE a priority to God. And we ARE. But knowing that doesn’t always alleviate the loneliness or the human feeling of rejection that we so often feel because of the inactions of others.

We all want to feel special. Valued. Prioritized. Adored.

And yet the thing is – we won’t. Not on earth, anyways. Not always by everyone in our life. We just won’t.

People disappoint. They always have and they always will.

So you DO have to believe what God says about you. You DO have to have a strong enough self esteem to withstand those times – lest you crumble and believe you aren’t loveable and don’t deserve to be valued or placed first with anyone else.

We can focus on all of the people who let us down. All of those people who fail to love us the way we want to be loved. Or we can focus and remember all those times when someone DID prioritize us. That card or phone call we got out of the blue. That person who wanted to meet us for lunch – to be with us. That special note left behind by your spouse or your child shouting how much they loved you.

There ARE moments where we are prioritized.

Let those times carry you through the moments where someone let you down. For those times will come. And then lift your head and look forward to the time that will soon come again where you are given love out of the blue with abandon and innocence by someone who had no idea you needed it.

And thank God – for He sent it to you.


Anonymous said...

I truly needed this. I've been going through a phase in my life where I need some reassurance. Thank you and God bless you!


Dionna said...

Oh BrokenOne - I'm so sorry. I'm glad this post came to you on a day when you really needed to hear and read the words...but I'm so sorry for the feelings and hurt you are currently going through.

Believe me - I understand. :) Please hang in there. I pray God will send you encouragement and love this week.