Tuesday, November 27, 2012

I'm Not a Quitter, But Sometimes You Need To Quit

If I say I will do something, I will do it. I am and have always been very insistent on staying true to my word. I don’t undertake something unless I’m confident I can follow through.

It’s the way I am.  Integrity means the world to me. My word means a lot and it says a lot about who I am.

But I’ve come to learn recently that sometimes it is not only necessary to quit on something – but vital. Sometimes for your own health, you need to say, “I can’t do this anymore. It’s just not good for me.”

It’s taken a lot of years and a lot of different circumstances for me to get to this point. To understand and give myself the freedom to be a quitter. To let someone down.

And it’s still not easy.

I don’t think it ever will be when you care about people. It hurts to know someone else may be hurting. It’s disappointing to know that someone else may be disappointed. That won’t ever change.

But there are times in life, where you have to look for the easier way out. Not the “easy” way out. For if you care and quit on something (or someone), it’s NEVER easy. But the easier way out is easier on YOU in the long run. You are looking for things to be easier on you stress-wise. Or physically. Or spiritually. Or you are freeing up time to truly focus on your family. To get your priorities in check.


We don’t always have to opt for the “hard.” We don’t have to tough things out. Being battered and bruised because you chose to be a martyr (when usually no one noticed) isn’t the right thing for anyone.

Sometimes you need to throw up your hands and say, “I need to quit this.”

Boundaries set to remove unhealthy patterns and behaviors are good and right. And should be used by people more.  So sometimes being a “quitter,” is exactly the right thing to do.


Jenn said...

Found you via your guest post at kaysepratt.com - thank you for sharing :)

You have a lovely blog and a beautiful family. Looking forward to coming back for a visit!

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(¸.·´ (¸.·`¤... Jennifer

Dionna said...

I'm glad you found me, Jennifer! I hope to see you back soon. :)